Where abouts is the starter relay located?

I believe its mounted on the left front strut under the hood. Right behind the battery.

Yep, it's right on the drivers side strut tower facing the battery/PCM.

there are 2 relays there.. which one is which?

actually there are 3. Two on the strut tower, and 1 on the inner fender.
DO you guys know which one does what. Thanks!

It has been so long since I replaced mine that I forgot which one exactly that it is. If you have purchased a new one, only one of the plugs from the three relays should fit it since they have different plugs.

No, I didn't get a new one. This is all part of my neutral safety switch hooking it up problem. The car that was a standard, is now an automatic. So I have the three prong outlet that comes from the tranny, one is back up light, other is +, and the middle one is the neutral safety wire. And since the car doesn't have that one in its harness I am trying to figure out where it goes. And I when its in park or neutral that wire is ground, and when its in gear its not. And right now for what I understand that wire goes to the starter relay somewhere, somehow. So if any of you guys know where or how please please share with me, cuz i can't get that thing on the road(insured) until that is resolved!
Thanks guys!

I'll see if I can find a few wiring schematics to help you out, if I still have them floating about.

I believe the one on the left ( as you look at it ) is the starter relay, the one on the right is the electric fan relay and I forget what the one on the fender does. I will look that one up and jog my memory.

so the one on the passenger side (left) is the starter relay... now my next question.. does anyone know what each of those connectors are(where the wires go to, or ground etc.)??

you will probally do really good if you go buy a service manual for the car. I know haynes has an alright wiring diagram in it and is only about $15.